Normalize loneliness

 

- I am lonely.
- If you are lonely, it's only because you are not comfortable with yourself.
- But I am comfortable with myself.
- It's because you don't love yourself, then.
- But I do love myself, though.
- Then you must not be having fun with yourself, find something fun to do.

But I am. I am my own date, my closest relationship, my most intense friendship. I am comfortable sitting with myself in both peaceful and awkward silence. I am comfortable with my thoughts, emotions. And I've learned to stay with those that are uncomfortable. I've learnt to accept me as much as to work on me. 

I am my best friend, but I still get lonely. 

Sometimes that's when I'm depressed and then I feel disconnected and I want to be with someone to whom I'd feel less disconnected from. 

Sometimes that's when I'm happy, excited and full of energy. Because I have love to give and I have so much to share and I wish I had a partner with whom we could both better each other off. 

We don't talk about just being lonely. 

We shut that conversation off. 

We say 

- You have us, your friends, come on, you are not alone

- You don't know how to be with yourself 

- You have no non-relationship related life aspirations 

We pile and pile and pile on top of that just to avoid the fact that sometimes we all feel disconnected, sometimes we all wanna be loved, sometimes we all want to come back home after exciting day at work and share our joy. Sometimes we feel alone, sometimes we feel lonely. Sometimes that tells us something about ourselves, it tells us what needs of ours we are neglecting. But sometimes... People get lonely. And for that, you don't have to be alone either. 

I get lonely. And that's okay. 

Normalize feeling lonely.